I know a young woman who was minding her own business, going about her day, when the actions of fools ruined that day for her. It's possible they've ruined the next month for her as well.
K was driving to work. Behind her, as I'm told, two boys were in a race, speeding up fast behind her. One of them misjudged the distance and clipped her car, sending it airborne into telephone pole, severely injuring her.
She'll survive. The injuries she sustained will take some time to heal though. Knowing her age, her disposition, I am confident she'll make it. She has strength but I'm sure she would rather forgo this test in tenacity. Who would want to prove their grit this way? She never asked for this. She has nothing to prove in my estimation.
When I found out she was hurt, and badly, my first reaction was “Jesus Christ...she's way too young, to young to leave us.” I was then told she'd make it so that threat was off. Once I heard about the details of the crash, I then started thinking about how no matter how carefully you plan your life, make well thought out, prudent decisions, something out of nowhere can come and smash that all up. It's sort of like that freak meteor that blew up over that Russian town, splattering people with blown out window pane shards.
“No Fair!” I'd shout as a six year old, over some injustice, only to be told to shut up because something or someone with more power lorded it over me.
Damn right it's no fair. K didn't deserve this nor did those in Russia. But it happened anyway.
Life can say, ”We'll tell you what's fair and that's THAT.
For me, the trick here is to realize there's no safety really. You can't know the future in detail nor plan for it in particular. You can sort of generalize about it, but that's as deep as you can look into a crystal ball. The specifics are indistinct. So live as you wish since it all can be taken away in an instant.
We live minute to minute. We get our information about our world right then and there and then we can adjust. If we're lucky, we get a heads up, but it's rare. Take it as it comes, they say. But you and I can't “take it as it comes” when we're served shit on a platter. We hate it. I suppose we could take that annoyance, convert it into motivation to make the best of a bad situation.
Perhaps that's the best answer we have.
K will overcome this. She has the benefit of youth and prior experience of dealing with BS. She won't enjoy the struggle. Nor would I. But she, you and I know the only answer is to “go forward.”
You know of the Phoenix bird myth? You see it played out countless times in real life. A mythical bird that is reborn after being destroyed by fire, again and again and again. The ashes coalesce to give rise to a new bird.
K is a Phoenix. So are we all. It's an easy choice. We've practiced this since we've been kids.
Thursday, February 28, 2013
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Savoy Truffle
Italian voters, who had to bear imposed
austerity (doing with less and hating it), have told the ECB to shove
it and voted their Prime Minister Monti out. Of course, the rich
holders of Italian debt freaked out and sent the markets crashing
yesterday. They are bitching that Italy is “ungovernable” now.
Ungovernable in that Italian citizens aren't staying bent
over and liking it.
But that's dreary. Instead I'll talk
about candy.
I'm an internet addict. I love my
information and I read it all. I was looking up a candy my Dad loved
and once tried to get me to love. Real black licorice.
Real black licorice, if eaten too much,
can cause heart arrhythmia. The CDC warns that eating two ounces of
the stuff can make your heart do the rumba. So the good stuff has
been tempered down a bit, in the US at least. But the Europeans and
Australians don't step on it at all. You get the 100% heart kicking
licorice.
I did find the licorice he liked. It
was the good old fashioned kind that melted like tar in your mouth
and makes your heart tap dance. They shaped it into a Scottish
Terrier dog and hence, they were known as Scotties.
I must've been around six when he
brought a bag of the vile stuff home. He sat at the kitchen table,
chucking Scottie after Scottie into his mouth while reading the
paper. He then offered me a piece and the smell of it reached my nose
before I popped it into my mouth. Ugh! I tried it though as his
insistence.
“Good huh? I love them. Don't you?”
he said.
I chewed it and wanted to spit the mess
out onto the kitchen floor but I couldn't to do that. I nodded my
head “yes” and made a beeline to the front door and heaved that
gloop right onto the front lawn. Not only did it taste bad but it
looked like hell on the grass as well. It sort of reminded me of an
oil spill.
I may have rinsed my mouth out too.
But all licorice ain't bad. The red
Swizzlers I can eat a whole bag of if I'm not paying attention.
Remember these? Fruit slices made into
candy. Those I loved when my grandmother would buy them. The cherry
ones especially. Now look at all that granulated sugar! A dentist's
dream. My grandmother was an Irish immigrant and LOVED candy. I
suppose it's an English cultural importation but from what she told
me, there wasn't much sugar to be had in the backwater of Annagh,
Rosscommon where she grew up. In 1904 it wasn't available and you
weren't foolish enough to spend what little you had on expensive
sugar. To her delight when she emigrated, she found the United
States had tons of cheap, sugary candy. She came to the US when she
was twenty and lost all her teeth by the time she was fifty. Guess
why?
I thought this one a goof, Mary Janes. I thought, "why name a candy after a codename for marijuana?"
I haven't seen these in years really. If you forget them in your
pocket during the summer, they melted and bonded to your jeans like
glue.
In this picture are those wax bottles
full of flavored, sugary liquid. I used to buy those from a small
corner store run by Jim Brodeur. Jim Brodeur looked exactly like a
toad and sat on a three legged stool most of the day in his store. He
was a grumpy ol' toad on his lily pad for sure. If he moved, you'd
call up a priest to say you had witnessed a miracle. He had NO
patience for we kids as we peered into the glass case at his candy
selection.
“I ain't got all day!” he'd bark.
Or, “You got enough money?”
Back to the bottles.
I'd get them but never, NEVER would
chew the paraffin wax. I knew kids who would chew and then swallow
it. Gross! Those kids I knew would eat anything too, I remember. We
had various discussions about what would happen to you if you did
swallow it though. It ranged from nothing at all to a two day
diarrhea session. I never bothered to find out.
The only time I did see someone react
to sweets was Jimmy M. He had purchased a whole half gallon of
bubble gum ice cream and ate it all in one setting. Bubble
Gum Ice Cream was multicolored and filled with tiny Chicklett gum
pieces. He scarfed it down like a dog worried that someone else
would snatch it. He was sort of right as we would beg one another for
piece of candy or gum if the other had it. Well, it didn't work out
too well for Jimmy. Ten minutes later he ralphed it all back up. We
kids thought it made an interesting pattern on the sidewalk, all
Technicolor and wavy like you melted a bunch of Crayola crayons. It
proved to be a great ball bustin' joke on Jimmy for a good three days
after.
I haven't been a candy freak since I
was a kid. I can only say that if I discount the liquid sugar treat I
guzzle every day, Coke. But, in general, I don't eat much candy now.
Since I was hopping all over the retro
candy sites last night, it put the idea in my head to find something
I used to get as a kid. Today I bought some of these below, Spice
Drops. I gave three to the dog and scarfed the whole bag down in one
hour.
Extra bonus points if you get the title to this piece! Hint: The Mauve Album.
Tuesday, February 19, 2013
The First Five MInutes
It feels as if I'm hurtling straight up
from somewhere very deep. Then it comes to a total stop without
whiplash. My eyes open and I am now awake.
This feeling doesn't happen all the
time, but I can go from lightly dreaming in my sleep to wide awake in
what feels like seconds. I was lying in my bed, looking at the
ceiling wondering what time it was. The house is dark and I hear
the rain pattering the siding. Ah I think, it's still Sunday and they
did predict rain. With this I can fixate my spot on the map. Sunday.
Home. Rain. Quiet. It must be late afternoon and you've awaken from a
nap.
I lie there, enjoying the stillness for
once instead of jumping out of bed. Rain bands come and I can hear
the pelting rise and then fall a few minutes later. The drain spout
outside my window will start gurgling louder now, after this burst of
rain. I like the sound.
I keep still. Any movement will warn
the dog and he'll jump up with his silly, happy abandon when he
realizes that I'm not dead. I swear he has celebrated every single
time I've gotten up. I should be thankful about that, but having a
boisterous welcoming party next to your bed every morning isn't my
idea of easing into the day. So, I keep still.
I'm nicely cocooned in this bed and
feel tingly as well. The TechLoft quilt I have has keeps me nearly
stinging warm, not a bad feeling in winter. I listen closely for any
of the usual neighborhood sounds but hear none. Everyone else has
done what I have done, and that's to rustle deeper into your nest.
Why go out into 35 degree rain if you can avoid it?
As my mind clears and shakes off the
sleepiness, I run the calendar in my head. “What do you have to do
now?” I think, scan and remember that there's nothing of import to
get done, the day's chores were done hours ago. Freedom!
I finally rustle the quilt and swing my
legs out of bed, nearly smacking the dog as he has quickly bolted
straight up, from where he sleeps, which is right by me on the
floor. I sit there, trying to move my dog's twenty pound Neanderthal
skull off my lap. Where he learned to plop his head in my lap after
I sit up I do not know. We do this every time. This is part of his
celebrating I suppose.
I don't turn on the lights, I seem to
prefer it dark. I go to the West front window and look out.
Everything's slick and dark. The street pavement shines. I see the
snow is melting and I quietly cheer to myself, “Yes! Get rid of
it!” I go to the East window on the other side, yes, same
blackness and slick shine to everything. That's OK because I'm dry
and beaming warm still from the NASA quilt I own.
I walk by the darkened den and see the
computer and monitor LED's blinking away. The living room's stereo
does the same, little Christmas lights winking on and off. I finally
get to the bathroom, to do you-know-what. I have much Coca Cola in me
and it wants out. The dog still thinks he can follow me in, after
eight years of being told “No!” With a thud, he'll plop on the
floor and wait for me.
After this, I go to the living room,
sit on the couch and stretch halfway out. My eyes dimly focus on the
ceiling above and I notice how damned relaxed I am. Great!
Saturday, February 16, 2013
Busted!
Rake: noun. One devoted to a life of
sensual pleasure; a debauchee; usually a man who is morally
unrestrained; a Roue.
*****
That word was used to describe a friend
of my brother's a long time ago, Kevin. Before I learned that, a
'rake' was a tool for gathering up fallen leaves. He was a rake
alright, and a good one too. He was one of these guys who fell on the
Earth with natural good looks, an affable manner and if girls were
close to him, you could nearly hear their ovaries rattling. He used
these talents to schtup as many of these women as he could.
Well, Kevin became fairly successful
managing a bond desk for a large financial interest in downtown
Providence. He found “the” girl and got married. Portia (no
joke, that was her first name) was a professor who taught at Brown
University's Alpert School of Medicine and they settled into the
upper middle class life. A few kids came along the way eventually
too. They lived off Blackstone Blvd in a Tudor style house that
wasn't garish at all. In fact, it was one of the smaller homes you'd
see over there. It was a nicely kept, cozy home surrounded by high
English gardens that hid it from the street.
From outward appearances, it all looked
stable and perfect.
Once again, my estimation of people was
clouded by the fact I didn't know the entire story.
I was invited, just once, to one of
their brunches. They held these brunches every Sunday and it was
Kevin and Portia's family and one from down the street. I was the
new addition that day.
The visiting family included a pretty
sixteen year old girl, a boy of about twenty who was home from
college and their Dad. Dad was this nearly too loud, gregarious sort
who I found out was a managing salesman for a pharmaceutical company.
I watched him, in front of everyone there, comically and jokingly
poke fun at his son for not having the cutest girlfriend that could
be had at Rutgers. That degenerated into Dad busting his son's balls
for not having a girl friend at all. I thought this kind of cruel
and began wondering about these “near rich” people. The son
would parry his Dad's not so hidden insults with, “Dad, I'm too
busy with classes for that!” No matter, you could tell his Dad
thought his son should always be on the Dean's List, a Letterman for
some team, and have the prettiest girl as well. I guess the son
wasn't interested in being a god damn number one success in
everything he did.
But that display wasn't what struck me.
I caught Kevin, staring at this guy's
sixteen year old daughter. It was one of those hypnotic stares, a
hungry stare a guy will give when he sees a pretty girl. She
was a pretty girl. She had a dewy appearance
about her, and a healthy does of innocence as well. Kevin locked
onto her and wouldn't let go.
The young girl was oblivious to it. She
kept eating her food, jumped into the conversation as she did and
remained unaware of Kevin's drooling. Kevin, by the way, was 43 years
old.
I kept darting my eyes to Kevin, then
to her and back to Kevin to watch this show. Also, I wanted to see if
this young girl would catch on. She didn't. As I was watching this,
I then felt someone looking at me. I looked up
and as saw that Portia, Kevin's wife who was standing against a wall
near the table, was watching me watch her husband. She then darted
her eyes away and lo and behold, her avoidance of me betrayed it all.
She knew that I knew her husband was eating up this young girl with
his eyes.
This scene confirmed an earlier
conversation I had about Kevin with Portia. I told her that Kevin,
along with a girl I knew a long time ago, Kelly, were the only two
I've known that were masters when it came to social situations.
Either one could walk into a room of strangers and in about five
minutes, lead them all, be well liked and have the room rapt upon
them. These two were that good. These were social butterflies who
finally gained a Ph.D.
Portia sighed and commented,
“Yeah...Kevin is very social.
I guess Kevin never did stop being a
rake. I wonder how many other women he had while being married the
entire time?
See what happens when you get the
facts? Your initial conclusions about people can be way off! I
thought this family was happy and successful. I guess there was more
to be found once you peeled away that Boston Ivy that grew halfway up
their house to see underneath! The English gardens, the wonderful
careers, the right cars and all the other superficial trappings don't
tell you the whole story.
I was never invited back. I guess
Portia wasn't too keen on my learning anything else about the family.
Friday, February 15, 2013
Dirty Minded Young Teen
Last night, I was talking to Don about
the schools we had gone to. He then was a bit surprised to find out
I went to Goff Jr High here in Pawtucket.
He asks, “My Mom taught at Goff.
What years did you go there?”
“1977-1979...what was her last name”
I ask.
“Mrs York.”
The name sounds awfully familiar to me.
I then ask him on a hunch if his Mom taught French classes. He said
she had. It then all came flooding back to me.
“You're Mom was
Mrs York? Wow, do I have a story about her!”
The guy looks at me suspiciously. I
then start the story by apologizing because it will involve sexual
references to his dear, Sainted Mother.
“I pulled a bit of a joke on your Mom
back then. She had set herself up for a joke and I leaped at it. I
knew I could get away with it because of a double entendre.”
I continue the conversation and explain
to him how the joke I pulled set itself up.
In French classes, you learn the verbs
by conjugating them. Here's an example.
The word “finish” in French is
finis. Here's how you conjugate it.
Je finis. Tu finis Il finnit (I
finish, you finish, he finishes)
Nous finnisons Vous finisez Ils
finnisent (We finish, you finish (formal) and they finish)
Do you remember how teachers would ask
a question to the whole class, and then pick out someone randomly to
answer it? Mrs York did that to me one Friday in that French class
of so long ago.
She was pacing back and forth in the
front of the class, firing questions out when she asks, “What does
the verb “venir” mean?” She pauses some and then looks at
me...”Ron?”
I knew the answer and I also saw a way
to goof on her as well.
Venir in French means to “come,” as
in “come here.”
So I answer her with a strong emphasis
on a particular word. I say, with all gusto, “It means to CUM.”
Come, cum...what difference is there in pronunciation? I could
totally get away with saying it. I sat there, looking innocent as
can be too.
You know when someone hears something
and they stall for a full, complete one second before they flow and
move on again? A fat pregnant pause? Mrs York sure paused. She stalled, pondered for that
full second at the way I answered the question, and went on with the
lesson. I secretly sat there trying not to laugh my ass off. Oddly
enough, none of the other kids in her class caught it. I guess it
being late Friday, they were all half asleep, waiting for the bell.
Don looks at me with the strangest
face. I then have to remind myself that I was talking about his Mom.
I then quickly have to explain the times and situation once again so
he doesn't feel too insulted.
“Hey, I was 14 then...there was no
attempt at besmirching your Mom, just a joke...”
He was OK once I reminded him.
But then he pulls out his phone and
starts texting.
“What's your last name again?” he
asks.
I tell him and guess exactly what he's
doing, he's texting his Mom this story.
“Hey, tell her I apologize!
Really...I mean it...It was just a joke, I was just a kid then.” I
say
After a few minutes, he hands the phone
to me. On it was this and sort of paraphrased.
“Ron! It's nice to hear from you
again. So you DID know what you were doing that day! It's ok, 14 year
old boys are allowed to say stupid things. I'm glad you met my son.
Wow, I can still remember you from 34 years ago. I hope you are
doing well!”
It really is a very small world!
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
Tyranny
I can remember my Dad advising me that,
“If you are loyal to the company you work for, put in the hard work
needed, then advancement, growth and success will come.”
It worked for him. It worked for him
because back then, companies realized that keeping good people meant
you had to give loyalty back to those who showed
it to you. It was a two way street and those companies that practiced
this held onto their best people. Business, if it were smart and saw
beyond the next quarter's profit statements, took a longer and wider
perspective.
Not for some companies though.
A friend, who works for a private
energy interest, was asked to put in over two days worth of work
during the recent blizzard. If getting into work was going to be a
problem, and it was for many, then sleeping over and living there,
would solve that. The company would have, at the minimum, people
there to run the operations. The generators would run, data closely
watched and any problems could be solved.
Now that the blizzard had peeled away
to Nova Scotia, the work needed was done, things got back to normal.
That until the director saw his labor costs for having people stay on
twenty four hours a day. He then sought ways to cut the pay of those
who agreed to stay on.
He wasn't going to pay them for the
entire time they stayed.
This was against the implied agreement
he made with the employees.
After a raucous argument and the
promise that administration was going to dig their feet in the ground
on this issue, the union was called. It was assumed that the union
would yank the balls off administration if they attempted to do this.
The people who stayed over would be paid.
Too late, the damage was done.
I was told that many were happy that
the pay issue was solved, but they were focused on the very
first reaction of management, which was to cut pay. The
first, true and heartfelt action by the company was to screw their
own people. This naked exposure of their disloyalty could not have
been more openly displayed. They shown their authentic selves in the
brightest of light.
“Fuck.Them.And.What.They.Want.” was
the response heard from more than a few employees.
Team building does not include treating
your own as adversaries.
As far as perception management? Any
future attempts to say they want to nurture the
“team” will be met with disbelief.
Had my Dad been alive and working at
the plant, he would've been shocked. He'd leave and besmirch their
name to any and whoever.
You can say that, “Well, times are
different now.” I'd say 'yes and no' to that. Here's what's not
different though, human nature. People are still going to react like
they've always done.
Saturday, February 9, 2013
Damned Annoying Conscience...
When much younger I'd leap at the
chance to help someone. “No problem!” I'd say.
Well, after being taken and used by
unscrupulous selfish pigs, I wised up. I started picking and choosing
just who I'd rescue. There were many times I'd could've offered a
helping hand but quietly held back, saving myself
the effort and grief.
Like every one else this morning, I
kicked open the storm door as a snow drift had tried to entomb me in
my own house. I managed to move a few feet out onto the sidewalk and
stood there, gawking at the other, higher snow drifts, my buried car
and the unplowed street.
“It's gonna take me half a day to dig
that car out and the other half to dig the walkways out...shit.” I
thought.
As I was inching along the sidewalk by
my kitchen door, slinging the snow over, my neighbor, a much older,
very alone women, chimes in from her upstairs window.
“Ronnnnnnie! Ronnnnnie! Could you
dig me out?”
Immediately I turned around and said
this: “I'll see what I can do old girl, this is one hell of a
snowstorm.” And then broke off that conversation and back to
shoveling. I said that to toss plenty of cold water on her idea. I
quickly surmised that the TON of work shoveling would be
doubled had I agreed to dig her out also.
So, I kept digging along, having a
conversation with myself on whether I'd do it.
“Son of a bitch...it's bad enough I'm
trying to burrow my way to the street...I have to do it again next
door?”
I finished up, came in, pulled off my
frozen jeans and sat down for a good two hours before I started
noticing a nagging sound in my head.
“Ronnnnieee....”
I then think.
“She's near 80, she's weak, she can't
escape, she feels trapped...Oh for God's sake...What else were you
going to do today anyway? Watch TV? Clean the house? (Christ, I
won't do that!), Blow time on the internet? Get out there and help
her.”
So, back out I went. I dug away,
tossing that heavy crap onto her lawn. I managed to free her to the
yet unplowed street I live on. “Well, it gives her some sense of
not being trapped.” I thought.
Perhaps, if I make it to near 80,
someone might do this for me, I’ll need it then.
Pay it forward they say. But that doesn't mean I enjoyed it.
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Schadenfreude
We all wear a face for the public, to
our co-workers, friends and strangers. We put on an act. Even to
the ones we are married to or have been friends with for decades. We
have inside of us deficiencies and ancient offenses we slyly cover
up.
It's all about social standing. Which,
I swear, we start to learn in kindergarten. Then we are truly tasked
with the tough job scrambling up the social ladder. It's somewhat
surprising when someone throws down the gauntlet and becomes your
enemy for the sake of competing against you. God, do we learn it
early! Kurt Vonnegut once thought that childhood and the toys we buy
them don't prepare them at all for what's to come. “I doubt that
any playthings could prepare a child for one millionth of what is
going to hit him in the teeth, ready or not.” I forget who said it
but “high school” doesn't end at high school, you're playing that
game till you get old and useless. I say it starts way earlier than
that. You learn all about promoting what's good about you and hiding
what's “bad” at an earlier age.
There are times now that I'll have a
conversation and something will come up where I'll say, “Hey, I'm
taking certain faults to the grave...no one will
find those out!” Then I'll jokingly point an accusatory finger at
my friend and add, “...and so will YOU!”
Before I had any real depth of
experience with the world and people, I would genuinely be surprised
at some revelation exposed in others. “Wow! I never imagined that
about him/her!” Now it doesn't bug me in the least. Why? Because
when you seen this occur countless times, it becomes ordinary. I'm
reminded of the BTK killer out in Oklahoma. When interviewed, one of
the neighbors was surprised. “He was such a nice man, so quiet and
kept a nice lawn.” Well, no one who has a bag of hidden sins is
going to parade that in public. Whether it be a guy who has a fetish
for fur or you've murdered 34 people. Admitting you cuddle with mink
or have murder implements in your home, sort of knocks your standing
down with the community.
*****
I learned a bit of information about an
acquaintance the other day. The guy struck me genuinely as a “nice
guy.” My estimation of him wasn't incorrect as everyone else
thought the same of him as well.
(This has nothing to do with this
piece. I have Pandora radio on my headphones now and it's set to a
Lite 70s rock station. I swear all that music was created out of the
Alan Alda-types, Women's Lib and “sensitive male” thingy that
was in vogue then.)
Anyways, back to the story.
This nice guy did love to put on a buzz
with craft beers, or if he was broke, with cheap and lousy craft
beer. I never did suspect he had a problem with alcohol. There are
two kinds of alcoholics, functional ones and dysfunctional ones.
Functional alcoholics manage to get good and greased on the weekends
but can show up Monday ready for work. They also can maintain some
steady control on their driving, relationships and the day to day
chores that makes your life move along on a straight line. For these
people, alcohol isn't a problem. This is what I thought
this nice guy I'm talking about was all about.
I come to find out he was busted a week
or so ago with a blood alcohol content that was outrageous. He scored
above a .35 on a State Police breathalyzer. That's an Olympic feat!
It would take far less to knock me out. I'd be in the gutter
looking like a drowned, greasy looking rat. Some guys can pack it
away I guess.
Other information came out about him.
WJAR was more than willing to publish as much embarrassing
information on him as they could. This guy had two prior DUI
convictions as well. This, I never knew about.
Upon learning this, I had no surprise,
no shock. I had no global change in my judgment of him. I just
added that piece of information I know of him and filed it away like
a bored office assistant. What did get my brain running were the
costs of a lawyer to fight a third offense, which you can't when you
register a BAC that's a near all-time-record on the Attorney
General's computer database.
Good luck to him.
Had I been a much younger man, I
would've been blown away by these revelations, even a bit snarky
about his mistakes. It's very easy to feel good about yourself when
you unfairly compare yourself to someone who has fallen. But now how
do I react? It's no biggie. (I like using LA surfer talk!) What
happens as you get older is that you learn finally that people are
people and you aren't so quick to condemn.
What do I mean? I mean that after years
of witnessing everything you have, you hopefully learn to stop that
excoriating judgment. There's no need for witch burnings when damn
near everyone screws up royally. I suppose you can shake your head
at those who continually keep fucking up with same problems. However,
even with that, you know how damned hard it is to change yourself
too, so why point a finger and stamp “hypocrite” on your
forehead.
What's the use of crucifying people in
public? Those who demand and engage in the open destruction of the
fallen, are just dumping all pent up rage, the stuff that's gone
wrong in their lives. They have someone they can
beat on with that old Freudian trick, displacement. If you can't take
your anger, misery out on the person who injured you, you can find
safer one to target. You want to find the most eager prick in a lynch
mob who's salivating at the chance to vomit all their personal pain?
It's the guy leading them, carrying the noose.
I'm no Bible Thumper, but the saying,
“Judge not, lest ye be judged” makes a lot of sense.
You're going to want me on your jury
someday.
Friday, February 1, 2013
Larger Than Life
“I
bet you haven't done anything crazy in your whole life.” S.
commented to me.
I
thought to myself, “Huh? Where did that come from?.”
I
tell him, “At my age...not anymore. I've done
crazy before.”
“Yeah,
but you look like you've never done it.” He
counters with.
Oooh,
that wasn't a well thought out comeback.
“Sure,
with the way I look now, with my graying hair and ever lengthening
crow's feet. You assume I've always been this age and never once was
young. After a while, crazy isn't as cracked up as you think it
is...and I'm not about to disclose some of the wilder things I've
done either.”
I
turn back to to what I was doing and say under my breath to myself,
“Punk!”
Everything
isn't “awesome” nor “epic.” Those of that crowd are
searching for this, plain excitement. They remind me of bored kids
of wheat farmers in flat and dull Nebraska. For some reason, those
in that generation seem bored by everything anyways. Even if they
were brought up in a major city where you can get anything you want.
I guess after having a lifetime of seeking an excited endorphin fix
has ironically numbed them. Each fix gives less and less of a kick.
I swear, most are too weary to go and locate real action and
instead, they use words to drudge up a monotonous memory of when they
did get off on doing something that was “epic” and apply that to
some mundane thing they've recently accomplished.
“Awesome.”
That word comes from “awe inspiring.” I'm sorry, but getting so
drunk that I vomit through my nose outside a nightclub doesn't
produce awe in me, instead it makes me feel distressed. Nor do
relating stories where I slid my car into a telephone pole, then a
100 year old oak tree, make me feel qualified for a medal. Though
I've known some who wear their silly and very expensive escapades, as
a badge of honor.
“I
had projectile vomiting on the inside of my windshield that hid what
I was seeing. That's why I crashed into the Quicke Mart! I'm so
fuckin' awesome!”
Know
how I judge that amazing experience? I think, “You're a fuck up!”
You
know, if you do re-frame your quite obvious and avoidable mistakes in
your life as “epic-ness,” then you are a hero and can feel quite
good about yourself.
I
found a great site, called Urban Dictionary. In it, all possible
slang or idioms that have been or is in use now is sarcastically
defined. Below is a European's view on the word “awesome.”
Awesome:
The American adjective. A concept, object or act whose worth lies
somewhere between non-objectional and life changing. Also, a word
whose meaningful definition(s)and correct applications are now
obscured and have been raped to death mostly by the 25 and under
crowd. It has been overused as "the" catch phrase used to
describe a situation, person, event, movie, taking a shit, etc. The
abuse and birth as a catchphrase has its origins among avid gamers
and pretentious English majors.
Example:
We
defeated Hitler. Awesome!
We
have potato chips. Awesome!
You
want epic-ness? Go to Syria and walk the streets of Aleppo as a jeans
wearing, blonde looking American, you'll see and witness awesom-ness
on a scale you never dreamed of!
And
I'll answer to one epic and awesome experience we did as bored
teenagers. Apocalypse Now was a cool movie and Lieutenant Colonel
Bill Kilgore's comment on napalm got us rascally boys thinking, “Is
it possible to make napalm?” It is.
Gasoline
and Styrofoam is all you need, it'll gel the gas to a sticky mess.
You stuff several gallons of that into a 4 inch PVC pipe and stuff a
magnesium illumination flare into it (procured (stolen) by one of us whose Dad
worked for the Coast Guard). Then cap both ends, take it to the
back of Slater Park and yank the flare's ignition cord. Do remember
to run like hell or things will go badly.
That
was awesome That was epic.
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